Pillemer recommends looking outside of yourself and beyond your immediate circle. Specifically, he recommends looking for an older person. If you want access to a true experience, Pillemer recommends looking outside of yourself and beyond your immediate circle. Specifically, he recommends looking for an older person, a much older person, who embodies the “me” you would like to be.
Don't spend who knows how much money on life coaches and on all kinds of experts who often just want your money and fill your mind with clichés, pleonasms, tautologies and clichés. The best person to ask for advice is the one in front of the mirror. Does it always work? Of course not. For me it's right and wrong, but I know several people who use this technique regularly with excellent results.
Just honesty and knowing exactly what you want. And no one will know your deepest desires and dreams, perhaps the darkest (apart from God, but He may keep a secret, don't worry). According to Margolis and Garvin, when you're not prepared with specific details about your problem, you're more likely to end up telling a long, step-by-step story that could cause the person giving you the advice to disconnect, lose focus, or misidentify the central problem that needs to be solved.
