We can learn a lot from Rehoboam's foolishness. Not all advice is considered the same. Here are four verses to consider when deciding who should form your inner circle of guidance. Family members were used for support less often by men than by women. Parents and siblings also fared badly, as they were for people with 5 percent each.
The sisters were not consulted at all. We all sit in different places on the spectrum, but it's important to know what side of the spectrum the person giving the advice feels on, in relation to you. If you resist change, and someone suggests a change to you as relationship advice, you're likely to struggle against change and advice, and possibly against the friend who gives you the advice. Relationship therapist, clinical sexologist and founder of Relationup, an online relationship community.
Non-professionals, such as family and friends, will always give you advice about your relationship if you ask them. It's not mean, it's just that most relationship advice is based more on what you've been through than on your friend's current situation. When I got married almost three years ago, at the wedding reception I asked some of the older and wiser people who were in attendance to give me some advice from their own relationships to make sure my wife and I didn't shit in (the same) bed. Honestly, I sometimes struggle to find someone who feels like giving me unbiased relationship advice.
Just as causing pain to the muscles allows them to grow stronger again, introducing some pain into their relationship through vulnerability strengthens the relationship. We asked people who was the last person they went to for relationship advice and provided them with a short list of options. This is very evident in relationships where one or both people are facing imminent change and the relationship suffers due to the struggle against the inevitable. A friend who has more emotional burden in relationships than a physical one will give you advice from that side of the spectrum.
